I love this article that shared by one of my friend's friend on FB. I don't know the author but still I would like to give credit to him/her. It is a simple article, but talking about what is exactly in my mind. Thank you for whoever writing it, and good job writing this. I would like to translate this article, to those my "banana" friends or whoever prefer to read in English. Of course, excuse my language error, since English is not my first language and this is the first time I involve in translation work.
A friend of mine tole me that she and her boyfriend have been in a relationship for a year. They just holding hands but never kiss.
我問她現在是西元幾年？ 她告訴我是 2009，
I asked her, "Do you know what century is it now?" She said, "2009."
This is not the first time she is in a relationship, neither does she is a virgin. However, she is willing to hold her boyfriend's hand for a year and not rushing into kissing.
There was a girl stated in her article, "The guy would hold her hand when crossing the street,
... partying and watching horror movies. He told her that holding hand is important."
The heart touching part of a relationship really has to do with holding hands.
When we hold the hand of our lovers for the first time, we are nervous and shy.
剎那間，彷彿正式宣告了：「 我們在一起！ 」
From that moment, as if we are telling the world, "We are together!"
Perhaps our hearts will stop beating because of the excitement.
When two people walking on the street with different pace, the partner would always remember to give his hand to her, giving her the signal to hold his.
The feeling is warm and touching.
When two people go to a gathering, they hold each other's hands under the table.
They do not need to look into each other's eyes but the warmth could be easily sent through the palm to the partner and keep he/she feeling secure.
There are some guys who will use their right hands to hold their girls' left hands while driving.
The hand of the partner became a heater especially during winter.
不管有多冷，即使零下 10 度，都可以向他取暖。
Even the weather is below 30 F, you can still fell warm and comfy from holding his hand.
When grow up however, the process of the relationship has been speed up.
The importance of holding hand is being ignored.
You may feel it is easy to hold someone's hand, or you may think it is not important at all.
The relationship is no longer started from holding each other's hands.
It maybe started from a kiss,
It maybe started from making love.
We may also do all of the above, but still do not love him/her.
I saw some people who are willing to intimately make love with their partners on the bed but refuse to hold each others' hands in the public.
We are now so used to the complicated relationship that involving sex,
but we ignore the simplest thing -- holding hands.
Or maybe we are not ignoring it, we just do not think it is important.
Holding hand indeed is the simplest, yet the hardest sexual relationship.
We could easily hold somebody's hand but hardly make love with one.
In contrast, we can also easily make love with someone but can hardly hold his/her hand.
We learned to protect ourselves in a relationship and therefore we reserve in giving. In other words, we are not willing to give too much to avoid getting hurt in a relationship.
We thought of the complicated problems in a relationship and we forgot the simplest meaning of true love.
There are times I am touched by the old couples who holding each other's hand and walking on the street.
How many people in your life are willing to hold your hand and walk with you even after you get older and can't walk anymore?
我指的是陪伴你一生的 「 好牽手 」，
I am talking about your life partner that wants to hold your hand,
who still willing to be by your side, hold your hand and give you strength even after you get old, sick and can't walk anymore.
I kept smiling when I looked at the old couples.
And sometimes my eyes turned red.
I thought making love is more intimate.
The process of the relationship used to be:
Holding hands, hugging, kissing, getting nude, then making love.
However, the relationship nowadays has changed.
Some people will first make love, then hold hands; or start with kissing, then holding hands.
Nevertheless, if towards the end they are able to love each other, the sequence in the process is not that important.
There are some people who willing to make love with you intimately but unwilling to hold your hands in the public.
The moments that can touch people's heart, is not making love with your love one,
but are the moments when your partner is holding your hand.
It is regardless whether it's on the road, in a car or on the bed.
That's the heart warming moment and could touch someone to the deepest.
And that moment, is the happiest and joyful heartwarming moment.
If love could be that simple, then holding hand definitely is more important than making love.
I hope you enjoy this post.
P/S: I feel that my first piece of translation work sucks! Well, as long as you can understand. LOL! But yea, I love this article. It basically voice what is in my mind. I remember feeling so touch when I received a message saying, "I will wait for you and believing that someday, you are willing to open your heart and hold my hand..."