True Love

I watched a movie named "Ghosts of Girlfriends Past" on plane when I flew back to US from Malaysia. Last night for some reason, I watched it again. Every time when I repeated some movies, I always get different messages. When I watched it again last night, the message that stands out for me is “Love is taking risks, but it worth taking”.

Today when I was lying on my bed trying to take a nap, this thought came into my mind, “The older we grow, the more timid we become.” We lose the courage of giving our loves unconditionally as we used to be when we were young. Especially for those who were in the relationships but they turned out meeting the wrong persons; they do not give their love easily. At some points, they close their hearts and lose the ability to recognize the right person.

I can understand the reasons people close their hearts as I was one of them, perhaps I still am. Being in a relationship that is not working can be so painful when separated. Whoever been through this probably understands better what I mean. Then when we meet another person in life that might be the right person for us, we either hold back our feelings, tell ourselves not to give too much, or we completely back off. Unfortunately when we try to protect ourselves by doing so, we unknowingly sabotage the potential relationship that might work well and push away the opportunity for the true love to grow. We longed for the intimate relationship that can last but then we tell ourselves we are not going to take this relationship seriously. Because “in case” he or she is not the right one for me, I can back off easily by not giving in too much.

By holding back our love in a relationship, we are not providing a strong foundation for a lasting relationship to grow. And when we cannot let go the past with the forgiveness not only to our ex partners, but also forgiving ourselves for the mistakes, we are holding our hurts and for some people, the resentment. Then when we started a new relationship, the memory of the past will keep coming back and haunt us. Then, we unknowingly repeat the behaviors and thinking that we did for the past relationships that are not working. Eventually, we are repeating the history.

When I am writing this, I remember a guy that I met last Thursday in a restaurant. This is a very special guy that inspired me, named Alex. He was very talkative and he was leading mostly all the conversation the whole night. He has good sense of humor and made everybody laugh the whole night. The reason of me writing about him is because of a statement that he made, “Marriage is so wonderful. When you find the right person, it is just awesome. When you are in the process of finding, it is like hell!”

At first when I heard him saying this, I was thinking, “Hmm… this guy must be just in a relationship or just married.” Later on when he disclosed that he has married for 14 years, I was stunned. I have seen a lot of sweet couples around me, as sweet as they can be. I do not have much feeling when I see them hugging, kissing and touching each other in front of the public or doing some sweet things like feeding each other etc. The situation that can deeply touch my heart is when I see old couples with white hair and hands full of wrinkles but still holding each other’s hands tight. For the whole night, he can’t stop talking about his wife and how wonderful she is. Some guys I have met, they do not even care to wear their wedding rings after 2 years of marriage.
I am happy for Alex for being able to find the love of his life. They are both lucky. Later on he told me that his parents are now over 70 years old but still give each other morning kiss everyday when they wake up, still holding hands wherever they go, I was so touched. His father said to him, “The only thing that I care about in this world, son, is your mom.” How wonderful!

And I truly agree with his saying. The process of finding the other half for our lives is really sucks. It took a lot of courage and it can be so painful when we thought we found one, but things turned out to be the opposite way.

Love might be a mistake, might mean taking chances. Is it worth taking?

When I see Alex, when I heard the story of his parents, I think it really worth taking. Is the eternity love exists in this world? Would I able to find the one that’s right for me? It is all about faith and courage. I would not stop my effort in recognizing my Mr. Right. How about you?

Remember, Dreams Come True

I just back from Disneyland awhile ago. I know I just been there last week for my birthday and yes, I went there again. This time, I was there just to watch the fireworks. As I mentioned earlier, I have the annual pass for the park and therefore I can go back there for almost whole year (as long as those days were not black out dates that set by Disney). On my birthday, I did not stay to watch the fireworks because I was tired and hungry. Plus, thinking of I can come back anytime just for the fireworks, I decided to leave the park at 7pm.

I saw the fireworks couple times far away from Disneyland. I thought it was just fireworks like other places, just fireworks but nothing else. I have seen fireworks once, which was about 6 years ago with friends at KLCC, the twin towels in Malaysia that used to be the tallest building of the world. It was quite impressive because I was standing really close to the place where the fireworks were set.

However, the fireworks that I have seen tonight was just truely amazing! It was not just an ordinary fireworks but with the classic Disney stories, musics and songs. We were standing in front of the pink castle and seeing the fireworks shooting from the castle to the sky and the little fairy flew over, as if she was the one that set the fireworks. When the first music on and the first firework flew across the sky like a shooting star, my tears dropped down. At that moment, my heart was so touched and I really can imagined that I walked in a magic world, with all the dreams come true. I did not has this kind of feeling before and could never imagine that the fireworks with music on would make me shed my tears. I am not a cry baby. I can only say, the fireworks show was just breathtaking, fabulous, awesome, incredible, marvelous, wonderful, tremendous, unimaginable, fantastic, excellent, terrific.....

Thanks again my dear, for making my dreams come true...

If you got a dream, you have to protect it. Never let anybody tells you what you cannot do. And then my friends, please do remember, "Dreams do come true!"

P/S: The below is the video clip that I found from YouTube. It is not able to show the amazing part of the fireworks as if you were in the scene, but it at least shows you briefly how the firework show looks like.