Learn the Lesson

How many times do a person needs to go through the pain to finally learn his/her lesson?

I think the answers are varies to each person. I just know that I am stupid enough to repeat the same mistakes once, twice, three times...

God, its time to give me the wisdom to stop repeating the mistakes. I hope I have learned my lesson.

Knife Mouth, Tofu Heart

When I was little, I always hear this old Chinese saying, "Knife Mouth, Tofu Heart", meaning a person has a very mean mouth saying a lot of mean things but his/her heart is actually very kind and as soft as tofu. My mom especially likes to use this saying to describe my father. I used to think this phrase is a compliment, until a moment ago.

I remember the founder of Tzu Chi organization, Dharma Master Cheng Yen's teaching about bad temper and mean mouth. She said, "Even you have a very kind and soft heart, if you have bad temper, you still cannot consider as a good person,""When you speak good and kinds words, you are releasing Lotus from your mouth. When you speak bad or mean words, you are releasing poisonous snakes from your mouth."

My living environment never let me realize that I am releasing poisonous snakes all these while. Do I have a beautiful heart? I am not sure about it. I just know that I never want something bad happen to anybody. With that, I am including the persons I don't like or the so-called enemies as well. Sometimes I do help people. Then I know, I am not a nice person because I have a mean mouth, a very mean mouth that as sharp as knife!

I have unknowingly hurt the people around me with this mouth, especially the persons that I love. I do not mean what I said when I was angry. Nevertheless, IT IS NOT OK to say it even though I do not mean it. IT IS NOT OK to hurt others with words even when I am super angry. Knowing that I have hurt someone unknowingly with the mean words, especially that someone is somebody that I really care, is really heartbroken.

I remember the hurtful feeling when my parents said something mean to me. I can’t believe that I have brought this pain to the people around me. And now here I am writing this to remind myself not to continue to hurt others with knife mouth. If you have ever done that in your life, let’s put our hands together to learn from wrong. After all, a meaningful life is never quit learning, isn’t it?

A Hilarious Gender Joke

It's not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:

1. A friend
2. A companion
3. A lover
4. A brother
5. A father
6. A master
7. A chef
8. An electrician
9. A carpenter
10. A plumber
11. A mechanic
12. A decorator
13. A stylist
14. A sexologist
15. A gynecologist
16. A psychologist
17. A pest exterminator
18. A psychiatrist
19. A healer
20. A good listener
21. An organizer
22. A good father
23. Very clean
24. Sympathetic
25. Athletic
26. Warm
27. Attentive
28. Gallant
29. Intelligent
30. Funny
31. Creative
32. Tender
33. Strong
34. Understanding
35. Tolerant
36. Prudent
37. Ambitious
38. Capable
39. Courageous
40. Determined
41. True
42. Dependable
43. Passionate
44. Compassionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

45. Give her compliments regularly
46. Love shopping
47. Be honest
48. Be very rich
49. Not stress her out
50. Not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

51. Give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
52. Give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53. Give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:

54. Never to forget:
* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes



HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY

1. Leave him alone

懂的快乐

知道自己超过一个月没来逛自己的部落格了，今天受到一封有意思的邮件，就想和大家分享。

有位哲學家告訴男人：

「只要懂得稱讚老婆的舊衣漂亮， 她就不會吵著要買新衣。吻一下妻子的眼睛，她就會變成瞎子。吻一下她的嘴唇，她就會變成啞巴。」

同理可證：「聰明的女人啊！只要妳懂得稱讚老公的才幹，他就會更賣力為妳工作。撒嬌地抱他一下，他就不會生氣動粗。吻一下他的嘴巴，他就不口出惡言。」

家裡不是立法院，不用長篇大論講道理，更不需要爭得面紅耳赤，只要妳懂得撒嬌和體貼，就能享受家庭幸福。聰明女人，何樂而不為呢？

人生所追逐的最終目的只有二個字--「快樂」。

記得有一次我吃飯時，突然間在潔白的米飯中發現一個黑點，仔細一看，是一隻蟑螂，當時我的第一個反應是還好屍體還很完整。於是我請老闆過來，用很愉快的語氣告訴他：「老闆，飯很好吃。」
老闆：「哪裡，哪裡，你過獎了。」
「這裡，這裡，你看連蟑螂都要來分一杯羹。」
老闆一看，果真有一隻喪生稻米之鄉的蟑螂，二話不說，立即換上一碗新的白飯，並附贈一杯飲料。

當時，我的朋友就覺得我很奇怪，碰到這麼倒楣的事，他們都已經快食不下嚥了，我還能心平氣和的跟老闆開玩笑，一副樂在其中的樣子。

事實上，我的快樂是其來有自！因為蟑螂本來就在飯裡面，我只要去吃這碗飯，就只有三種可能：
一、沒發現，直接將蟑螂吃到肚子裡；
二、吃掉半隻蟑螂以後才發現；
三、還未鑄成大錯前就發現。

我是何其幸運碰到第三種最佳狀態，又可以讓我只花一份錢，卻吃了二碗飯，還賺了一杯飲料，當然快樂得不得了。
或許很多倒楣的事件發生之際，不愉快的感覺就油然而生，這是人之常情，我們也不奢求自己是聖人，不能生氣或悲傷，但我們總可以要求自己，事後再想想有沒有什麼值得慶幸的事，如果有，想辦法找出來，如此一來，生活中就會充滿著喜悅。

總之，快樂不是用追求得來的，而是發現得來的，凡事總有好的一面，只在於我們願不願意去發現而已；快樂的人懂得惜福，他們從不埋怨自己缺少什麼，而會去珍惜自己擁有什麼。

朋友！你發現快樂了嗎？別忘了與人分享喔！

風來了，竹子的枝幹被風吹彎；風走了，竹子又站得直直的，好像風沒來過一樣；雲來了，在潭底留下一道影子；
雲走了，潭底乾乾淨淨的，好像雲沒來過一樣；竹子不會因為被風吹過，就永遠直不起腰來；清澈的潭水，也不會因為雲飄過，就永遠留住雲的影子。

同樣的，心胸寬大的人，不會 因為別人兩句不禮貌的話，就颳起永遠的狂風巨浪；也不會因為別人不禮貌的行為，就在心底刻下無法磨滅的傷痕。

像清澈的潭水一樣，雲過了，不留痕跡。

像堅韌的竹子一樣，風過了，不留痕跡。

希望自己能向清澈的潭水和堅韌的竹子学习，云淡风轻。

第一次忧郁症讲座会

讲座会圆满结束，但进步空间还很多，再接再厉咯！谢谢所有联办单位的极力宣传，使得讲座会有超过300人的人潮。更感谢出席聆听的群众，希望对你们有即便那么一丁点的帮助。有机会我们明年再会！

我的第一次……

Quick Update of My Life In Malaysia

My blog hasn't been updated for over a month. I can't believe my life has been crazily busy ever since I got home. I kept telling people that I regretted I back home for such a long time this year (1month and 2weeks). However, I feel the time is flying and I am home for 3 weeks already.

I am leaving to Chiang Mai (Thailand) in another 4hours. I have not started packing yet I am here blogging. What have I been busying lately? I changed my hair style and it's color, gained some weight, preparing my talk for depression and planning trips after trips.

My current plan is going to Singapore after Thailand, then go to get my diving license at Redang Island. Let's see how things work out. And now, I really need to pack my stuff and get some sleep before leaving the house for the trip tonight. Hopefully I will have chance to update my blog soon.